I’ve had this little illustration pinned on my bulletin board (a real one, in the kitchen) for years.
Am I a mom who shows her children how much I cherish them? Do they really know how much I love them? Am I giving them my time and attention? Sometimes it is hard when there are so many of them and only one of me! It is hard because life is so full of distractions. Many times my sinful heart has tricked me into thinking that they are the distractions interrupting something else. But they aren’t the “little distractions” I’ve often called them. They are what life’s all about.
I really get tired, so tired of having most of my conversations with the kids revolve around school, training, correction, instruction. I want quality time, quality conversations. I have a sweet friend who prays for me each morning, and I asked her to pray that I would find ways to spend more time giving each child my attention. I think her prayers were heard!
No more waiting to plan a mommy date or special outing. It wasn’t happening. I have been purposing to spend 20 minutes each day alone with one child. That is very doable! (Think: how much time does it take you to check emails, read blogs, etc.) I haven’t planned any special activities or trips; I’ve just given my time. We call it “Mom and Me” time.
It has been a great couple of weeks!
I wanted to take my phone with me only to snap a few pictures of my time with the kids. You can see how very simple our activities were. Nothing fancy. I let the kids pick an activity.
Monday: time with the oldest son. He wanted to teach me how to shoot his BB gun.
Tuesday: time with oldest daughter. She wanted me to open a pumpkin with her to get the seeds out, jump on the trampoline, and push her on the swing.
Wednesday: time with youngest daughter. She wanted to play with her dolls and stuffed animals.
Thursday: I was supposed to have time with my youngest son. It just didn’t work out. We had a grocery trip and dinner out that day, and I just couldn’t find the chunk of time. Boo hoo!
The Mom and Me time rotates, so we just picked back up and made time the next day! We played in the sandbox.
I wanted to think of an easy way to keep up with our time and who was next, but it turns out, the kids don’t forget. They loved being able to spend time with Mom all by themselves. If you are looking for a simple way to keep up with Mom and Me time, you could use a clothespin and a card with your children’s names. This card is near our calendar to show the current month, but a card with children’s names would work well!
You could use a card similar to this one with kids’ names instead of months to keep up with Mom and Me time!
I hope this gives other mamas some ideas for spending time with your precious kiddos! We made some great memories at my house these last two weeks. I’ve also had a chess lesson and worked on a needle point! If you have ways that you make alone time with your children work, please share them with me! 🙂
Oh, if you are wondering what the other children were doing during Mom and Me time…. they watched a video and read books. 😉